Why Making Assumptions Towards Another Person Sucks.
Let’s call him R. R is a close friend of mine. We talk a lot about different things. R is a talkative guy and he easily reacts to stories you tell him. He also can go as far as making assumptions about things without basis.
How did I know that he has no basis?
I ask him what’s his basis.
His response: nothing.
And I’m like: I think it’s unfair you think like that.
Here are the reasons making assumptions sucks:
- You become easily disappointed.
When you assume something from another person, you hold on to this idea that maybe he or she wants this. This thought gives your reason to be sure without any tangible evidence.
You have no basis, it’s an assumption. You’ve already decided that he or she will do something.
Constantly doing this with every person we meet positions us to be disappointed. People are people. They are as complex and as complicated like us. It’s better to ask them directly than assume.
Sometimes asking is awkward but it clears the air.
2. You limit your own growth.
Through assumptions, you become unprepared for the things that will happen. You become focused on the things that you already thought without seeking the actual truth.
Let’s go back to R. When he assumes things, he won’t ask about them anymore. He won’t ask the real score about something. He won’t ask for a reason. Why? Because he has assumed already.
Assuming hampers your growth to becoming better and more understanding. It stops your curiosity.
When you think like this, you already made up your mind thay you’re right.
Well, most times you’re wrong.
All you gotta do is ask. When you ask, conversations happen, opportunities arise, relationships grow.
See for yourself. 🤝
