3 Ways To Consciously Stop Unhealthy Comparison
In the previous blog, we discussed the reasons why comparison is disrespectful to your own journey and to the other person’s.
Here is a recap:
- You Disqualify Your Achievements When You Compare.
- You Constantly Long To Know Something — Which Distracts You From Focusing On Your Process.
- Comparison Shows Discredit To The Other Person’s Process.
Now we will discuss how to consciously not fall into the trap of comparison.
- Recognize that every journey detail is different.
We have high exposure to social show-offs whether it’s genuine or not. Right? The good thing is, in the midst of it all, we all have the freedom to choose. Okay, what’s the importance?
Our freedom to choose is a powerful tool to consciously recognize that every person’s life that we see online is different. There is “behind the scenes” on every single thing. In films, series, and wherever video content we watch, the rough work happens behind the curtain. What we see is the finished product, the tip of the iceberg. We are not always aware of the sweat, effort, and struggle behind.
Even if two of my friends are website designers, they still are different. They have different takes on designing. Recognize that both of them have very different details in how they’ve become that.
2. Focus on and enjoy your process.
This journey has had ups and downs for me, and I am so glad to belong in a community. Whenever I speak with a person, I drill in my head that she’s also going through a process. When I choose to be aware of that, it leads me to focus on my own.
Focusing on your own doesn’t just mean saying no to distractions. It’s also that, and here’s another angle. Focusing on your own process means acknowledging how you function. You become aware of the details in what you’re doing. It means being more acquainted with your unique take on things and what you think works for you.
At the same time, being happy that you’re like that. Enjoy how you are, enjoy that these things make you happy in building something.
3. Choose allyship.
As service providers, we have values. We have people that we wanna work with. Instead of looking and measuring against another person, we can choose to treat them as allies. We can choose to be for them, root for them, and admire them.
We can also choose to see them as classmates from whom we copy assignments. Just kidding but yup, sometimes it feels like that? Is it just me? Haha.
Allyship with your persons feels more like a team effort with individual results.
That’s it! Yas!
