2 Types of Comparison: Which One Are You?
Some people say comparison is okay if you’re comparing yourself with your version in the past. According to the comments on my post on Linkedin the other day, it’s healthy if you see growth after comparing.
In my previous post, I enumerated three ways on how to consciously stop comparing ourselves. Here they are for recap:
- Recognize that every journey detail is different.
- Focus on and enjoy your process.
- Choose allyship.
Now we will dive into the two kinds of comparison. First is Unhealthy Comparison.
- What is Unhealthy Comparison?
It is a type of comparison that makes you see the other person as a threat to you. You start to hate or be irritated with the other person you’re comparing yourself with. It is not beneficial to you as the person doing the comparison. It is unhealthy because it doesn’t bring the good in you, but instead, makes you miserable.
Unhealthy comparison breeds to a lot of toxic things that can suck in your joy, peace, creativity, relationship, and so much more.
It shows disrespect to your own journey and to the other person’s journey you’re comparing with.
Instead of inspiring you, it makes you insecure and it distracts you from process.
On the other hand, here is the healthy comparison.
2. What is Healthy Comparison?
It is when comparison is done with the motive to be inspired from or give inspiration to the other person. It is a type where you don’t see the other person as your enemy. You see him or her as your ally. You don’t let his or her achievements make you feel insecure.
Healthy comparison can be mixed with admiration to the person whom you look up to. You feel genuine care and happiness towards the person, while also wanting to learn from them and their experiences.
You recognize and respect the details in her journey. You feel refreshed and joyful when you see them achieve a milestone in their ventures.
So, which one are we?
